This is so correct (unfortunately). I feel like some ‘girls girls’ are just that — but they’re not *women’s women* as in they support girls until they don’t fit into the ‘girlypop’ category in which there’s no room for messiness or ugliness or nuance or reaction.
i unfortunately agree. the support is definitely conditional which makes it shallow. women are complex beings and if your support for women is only reserved for the ones you deem “likable” well.. you might end up contributing to misogynistic smear campaigns.
thank you for writing this. it is so crucial especially because i’m seeing the same (although on a lesser scale) treatment of angelina jolie as she continues to stand her ground when it comes to speaking out about the abuse she faced at the hands of brad pitt.
i literally lost it the other day on a family member who tried to say “well, he has substance issues” and “he’s done philanthropy” as a way to defend him and insinuate that she shouldn’t have said anything.
i’m sorry but i will always believe a victim unless proven otherwise because i cannot imagine if the roles were reversed and no one believed me. i will never understand the urge to defend the abuser first. it just floors me. what is it about these men that make you feel like this? and what is it about these women that make you hate them.
yes, i think about amber heard every time i see someone treat angelina jolie like a liar. they’re both super famous movie stars and yet angelina is automatically the lying demon and brad the innocent angel hmmm..
i’m sorry you had to deal with someone trying to defend him. amber heard did what people say you should do and yet people find a way to demonize her. it’s so sad.
i agree and i can’t understand it either. it just blows my mind. it’s part of why i have such passionate feelings about the ah v jd trial. Witnessing the way being a male actor is enough to get people to dehumanized his victim and make her out to the perpetrator despite evidence, despite the me too movement, despite the many stories from woman who were abused by an ex partner... it’s just mind blowing
i appreciate you for commenting this and for reading my piece. 💖
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Stunning piece of writing. Thank you for this.
💕 thank you so much for reading!
This is so correct (unfortunately). I feel like some ‘girls girls’ are just that — but they’re not *women’s women* as in they support girls until they don’t fit into the ‘girlypop’ category in which there’s no room for messiness or ugliness or nuance or reaction.
i unfortunately agree. the support is definitely conditional which makes it shallow. women are complex beings and if your support for women is only reserved for the ones you deem “likable” well.. you might end up contributing to misogynistic smear campaigns.
thank you for writing this. it is so crucial especially because i’m seeing the same (although on a lesser scale) treatment of angelina jolie as she continues to stand her ground when it comes to speaking out about the abuse she faced at the hands of brad pitt.
i literally lost it the other day on a family member who tried to say “well, he has substance issues” and “he’s done philanthropy” as a way to defend him and insinuate that she shouldn’t have said anything.
i’m sorry but i will always believe a victim unless proven otherwise because i cannot imagine if the roles were reversed and no one believed me. i will never understand the urge to defend the abuser first. it just floors me. what is it about these men that make you feel like this? and what is it about these women that make you hate them.
this was beautiful. thank you for it.
yes, i think about amber heard every time i see someone treat angelina jolie like a liar. they’re both super famous movie stars and yet angelina is automatically the lying demon and brad the innocent angel hmmm..
i’m sorry you had to deal with someone trying to defend him. amber heard did what people say you should do and yet people find a way to demonize her. it’s so sad.
i agree and i can’t understand it either. it just blows my mind. it’s part of why i have such passionate feelings about the ah v jd trial. Witnessing the way being a male actor is enough to get people to dehumanized his victim and make her out to the perpetrator despite evidence, despite the me too movement, despite the many stories from woman who were abused by an ex partner... it’s just mind blowing
i appreciate you for commenting this and for reading my piece. 💖
This was well written and I loved every part
thank you for the kind words 🩷 :)
Amazing piece ❤️
thank you so much! 💜
Great piece! You should listen to the podcast “Who trolled Amber?” by Tortoise Media. It does investigate media manipulation in this case.
It's because they support people who they think are powerful. Most primates do that.